Whether you are in a relationship or single, rarely will Valentine's Day pass by without your notice. If you are single and even if you think the day has no significance, on Valentine's Day you will think about and want a relationship more than usual. If you are in a relationship and Valentine's Day does not get celebrated, it will leave hurt and resentment in its wake.
Valentine's Day is a great opportunity to focus on love. Think of Valentine's Day as "Focus-on-Love Day," as opposed to "Hurt- About-Lack-of-Love Day" or "Ignore-Being-Single Day" or "Unhappy Day." Below you will find ways to make your "Focus-on-Love Day" extraordinarily romantic, whether you are single or in a relationship.
1. The Perfect
Singles: If you had a partner, what would you have them do to create your perfect Valentine's Day? Create it for yourself. Love yourself that much.
2. The Perfect
Card + One Perfect Rose
Singles: Buy or make a lovely card for yourself, and just as above, fill it to the brim with words you want to hear from your future lover. Seal the envelope, so that you can open it on Valentine's Day. Present it to yourself with one perfect rose.
3. Treat Valentine's
Day as a Lover's Day and not as a Woman's Day
Singles: Guys, give yourself that same wonderful Valentine's Day as a relationship partner would give you. You may feel silly, but you will also feel good.
4. Say Goodbye
to Obligation; Say Hello to Open Heart
Singles: Don't beat yourself up for not having a partner yet. You have not failed. You are not bad. Valentine's Day can be "Focus-on-Love-for-Yourself Day" as well as "Focus-on-Love-for- Another Day."
5. The Gift of
Singles: Give yourself the gift of your own undivided attention. Take away all of the distractions and be with yourself the way you would want your partner to be with you.
6. Gift of Communication,
Singles: Either find a person who will listen to you the way you need to be heard, or give yourself space and time to listen to your own thoughts and feelings or to journal.
7. Gift of Communication,
Singles: Either silence or open heart--give yourself whichever one you need.
8. A Gift with
Singles: Give yourself the gift of time to pursue your important interest. Take the time to do something that nourishes you and makes you happy.
9. The Trust
Singles: Today, trust your process and your fate. Today, trust that you too will be loved and cherished by a partner. Today, remember all the people who already love and cherish you.
10. A Shower of
Singles: Write yourself a love letter or poem, exactly the way you would want it written by a lover. Read it to yourself out loud and have Kleenex ready.
Plan to have a happy Valentine's Day!
This article was
originally published by Coach Rinatta Paries in *The Relationship Coach
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