Eight Ways to Be a Better Friend
by Susie Michelle Cortright
a friend isn't just something that we do. It's a skill that we can learn
and improve upon. Here, eight ways to be a better friend.
Number One: Like yourself
We become better friends because we don't cling. We are secure enough to spend time with a friend because we want to, not because we need to.
And relax--the journey to self-acceptance is life long. Practice it in small steps along the way.
Number Two: Choose wisely
Number Three: Make the time
Number Four: Make the first move
Too often, we fail to follow up with our friends. Don't miss out - just make the first phone call. Your friends are just as anxious to get together as you are.
Number Five: The Golden Rule
Focus more on being interested than on being interesting. Be enthusiastic and energetic. Avoid complaining, gossiping, and criticizing.
Number Six: Sweat the Small Stuff
Number Seven: Listen
A few tips:
* Show her you are listening. Maintain eye contact. Offer nods and murmurs that indicate you understand her point of view.
* Minimize distractions.
* Ask questions.
* Be careful with advice. Assume your friend wants to just vent her frustrations, not ask you for a plan of action. Avoid the phrase, "what you ought to do is..." Offer your opinion only if your friend specifically asks for it (and you believe she will benefit).
Number Eight: Be loyal
Copyright 2000 by Susie Michelle Cortright
Susie is the founder and publisher of Momscape, an online magazine devoted to nurturing the nurturers. Read inspiring articles and essays, and register to win free pampering packages. http://www.momscape.com